Family Therapy

(In the comfort of your own home!)

Me and baby Max

Something happened to my cute, cuddly baby.

You couldn’t wait to have a baby. It was the only thing you wanted for the longest time.

Now, your baby is ten years old, and he just said, “Shut up” to you for the first time. The blatant disrespect of a ten-year-old incenses you.

You would NEVER have talked to one of your parents this way. Such behavior is a clear sign that you have screwed up as a parent.

Baby Max in center of crowd all grown up, at a concert in college

Children don’t come with an instruction book.

Raising a child is the most critical and challenging job in the world for which there is no formal training or “onboarding.” It is positively insane how much parents must know when their child comes into the world.

The only ideas we have about parenting come from our parents.

As you probably already know, if you are reading this website, neither extreme works. You need more tools!

Family therapy provides the tools.

When parents call and ask me to see their child in individual therapy, I always say, “No, thank you…”

The last thing I would like to do is give your child the impression that she is the problem.

In family therapy, you learn it is counterproductive to focus on what your child is doing. In contrast, it is more constructive to focus on yourself. You ask yourself, “Why do I get so triggered by my child’s misbehavior that I stoop down to her level and forget I am the adult?”

I am happy to help you with this process. It won’t take long!

Family dynamics, not you, are the problem.

The problem lies in the family system – in the micro-interactions that occur between family members.

Families interact in similar ways to the actors on the TV show “Survivor”: the alliances among family members should create bonds. Instead, they alienate family members and destabilize the family.

The unspoken alliances that family members create to feel a stronger sense of belonging block direct communication and connection between family members. It is essential to bring to light these unseen interactions between family members.

Home family therapy helps change interactions.

In family therapy, you will learn what you are doing to send confusing messages to your children. From your child’s perspective, one minute, you are all smiles and want to hear all about her day. The next minute you are screaming at her because she did not finish her homework before dinner.

You tell your child that she can uniquely become whoever she wants to be in life. Then, you micromanage her schoolwork because you fear she will not get into college. (Thus, not allowing you to boast to your parents and friends.)

You will also learn that by protecting your child from pain and struggle, you are handicapping him from learning how to handle life’s inevitable challenges.

Because it is essential to see the intricacies of a family’s dynamics
in their natural environment – I make house calls!

Let’s change your family’s dynamics.

By visiting you in your home, the relationships within the family become clear. This in-home visit guides me to know which tools are necessary for changing the way your family interacts.

By changing the family dynamics, communication and mutual respect develop. Then, you cease to say, “What is wrong with my child?”

Contact me today!